Ash
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Post by Ash on Jan 30, 2004 9:13:04 GMT -5
... it might please them in some strange way which I don't really understand...but still, not hurting anyone. If they're thinking indecent things in class, they should learn to focus on class...there are distractions everywhere in life, and everyone needs to learn to deal with them. But see, in a way it IS "hurting" someone....the guys who are tempted when girls wear tight/short/low/etc clothing. I don't think we girls realize sometimes how much guys struggle with this issue. For me, I'd rather not wear really revealing clothes because I don't want to make guys "fall" in that area. Yeah, the physical attention girls get from guys can sometimes be flattering for us but there's also the other side of things. As for your "If they're thinking indecent things in class, they should learn to focus on class." statement, it's not just guys' faults though. We (girls) have a choice: we can dress in revealing clothes which will tempt guys OR we can simply try to watch what we wear so that we don't HELP guys in that area of temptation. I really don't like it when girls dress in slutty clothing and then get all upset saying that guys are perverted and have dirty thoughts, etc. My reponse would be, "Well HELLO!! Maybe if you'd wear more clothes that wouldn't be as much of a problem." grrr Don't think I'm some goody-goody who's perfect when it comes to this. I'll admit, I probably do wear some things that I shouldn't because they don't seem "trashy" to ME. However, if I would look at it from a guy's point of view maybe they're not the best things for me to be wearing. Lynnet, I don't think you're a bad person or anything. :)But I just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents. Also, another thing that bugs me in the realm of clothes..... school shorts rule. I have long arms/fingers as with many people, so to actually wear shorts to school that are legal, they'd need to be maybe 2 inches at most above my knees. In case no one has checked recently, stores don't make very many shorts like that anymore for girls. ew I know! I hate long shorts. In fact, I just don't like shorts...the shorts I wear aren't super short but they're not like just above my knees either. I really need to invest in some capris that are cargo-ish...I love them. You're right, you really can't find many cute medium-length shorts these days which is super frusterating for me once the spring and summer rolls around.
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Post by Lynnet on Jan 30, 2004 22:10:32 GMT -5
I'll admit, I probably do wear some things that I shouldn't because they don't seem "trashy" to ME. However, if I would look at it from a guy's point of view maybe they're not the best things for me to be wearing. Yeah, my clothes really don't seem bad to me at all (though my parents beg to differ occasionally...but if it were up to them I probably wouldn't leave the house or be online or anything...), but I can't help what I like. I'm probably making myself out to seem far worse than I probably am, heh. I don't think we girls realize sometimes how much guys struggle with this issue. Great point; I really do have a hard time understanding guys in general a lot of the time... And us girls are supposed to be the sensitive ones
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Post by H-Zence on Jan 30, 2004 22:16:09 GMT -5
Don't even get me started.
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Post by Colliohn on Jan 30, 2004 22:41:54 GMT -5
lol. Well you know: If you don't have boobs, you don't have feelings, guys. ;-) (I'm just messing around, btw, for those of you who didn't detect my sarcasm. )
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Post by Lynnet on Jan 30, 2004 23:09:30 GMT -5
I was being sarcastic, too, just so you know
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Post by JohnnyJihadFace on Feb 14, 2004 0:30:18 GMT -5
But see, in a way it IS "hurting" someone....the guys who are tempted when girls wear tight/short/low/etc clothing. I don't think we girls realize sometimes how much guys struggle with this issue. For me, I'd rather not wear really revealing clothes because I don't want to make guys "fall" in that area. Yeah, the physical attention girls get from guys can sometimes be flattering for us but there's also the other side of things. As for your "If they're thinking indecent things in class, they should learn to focus on class." statement, it's not just guys' faults though. We (girls) have a choice: we can dress in revealing clothes which will tempt guys OR we can simply try to watch what we wear so that we don't HELP guys in that area of temptation. I really don't like it when girls dress in slutty clothing and then get all upset saying that guys are perverted and have dirty thoughts, etc. My reponse would be, "Well HELLO!! Maybe if you'd wear more clothes that wouldn't be as much of a problem." grrr okay as for hurting guys by tempting them, no. unless of course you mean rape.. which you don't. You mean tempted to lust. The problem here is that lust isn't a problem untill you act on it.... I.E. rape or an excessive level of promiscuity. not everyone has to cater to christian needs. As for girls who wear nothing and bitch about guys looking at them and such, to hell with them all, how stupid can you get. In other words, we agree.
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Post by Colliohn on Feb 14, 2004 22:26:22 GMT -5
John's right. Lust isn't a problem unless you act on it, or if you for some reason have this notion that an all-powerful being would make you with this insane lust for the opposite sex, but then tell you that it is a bad thing...
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Post by Aislinne on Mar 16, 2004 11:50:38 GMT -5
The thing I always find sad is that women (or in these cases, girls) flaunt themselves like that then they must really think their sexuality is all they have to offer and that they must put it on display to get any kind of recognition. Frankly Im sick of females always devaluing their sexuality just to get some attention...
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Post by Nostradanus on Mar 16, 2004 20:20:04 GMT -5
just by chance, the other day i realized i had a penis, and yet i have no desire to show it to the general public....hmm how odd
haha, ok seriously, you can say whatever you want about britney spears, and other girls in the media who set examples for little girls, the truth of the matter is, its up to the individual to determine what he/she is going to look like on any particular day. as for girls who dress in a "fleshy" manor, and then act like they don't like the attention are just liars, and should be shot in the ass (extremely painful, embarrising, without being immediately life threatning) I personally would be much more satisfied seeing a woman naked who is usually fully dressed (going where no man had gone before), then a young lady who you've already seen most of, except for the milk and cookies...(and i mean see them naked as if i were going to marry them or something, not like....random streaking or anything like that)
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Ash
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Post by Ash on Mar 16, 2004 22:18:49 GMT -5
The thing I always find sad is that women (or in these cases, girls) flaunt themselves like that then they must really think their sexuality is all they have to offer and that they must put it on display to get any kind of recognition. Frankly Im sick of females always devaluing their sexuality just to get some attention... I totally agree with you there. There are way more important things than looks....such as intelligence, sense of humor, how the individual treats others, etc....AKA "personality"...
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Post by jk on Mar 18, 2004 8:28:05 GMT -5
There is an interesting quote, although i dont know who said it, that goes like this, "Always tell a pretty woman that she's smart and a smart woman that she's pretty" It never fails that the grass is greener on the other side. If you have a smart girl all she'll want to be is pretty while beautiful girls just dont want to be a pretty face. The value of sexuality is relative, as all things . Some people just dont think its a big deal to wear tight clothes, while others call them sluts for doing so. "Come on people now smile on your brother, and try to love one another right now" I could care less if someone (male or female) walked around naked because they felt more comfortable that way. Ademas, why should they care whether your or i aprove of what they do?
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